Summary: A good support system is vital for a smooth recovery period. You’ve got to be able to let people do some work for you. You can’t rush back into your daily routine, and if you do so, you might risk your results. So how does it work if you’re performing your procedures in secret? It’s certainly not a unique idea—and there are plenty of people that find a way to do it and get away with it. But it’s not advisable. If you have some friends or family who don’t seem to be on board with your surgery, dialogue and discussion are the best bets. Not secrets.
Family Support for Plastic Surgery Decisions
How important is family support to your plastic surgery decision? It’s worth discussing, because on many plastic surgery websites, the surgeons in question offer confidential consultations. On the website of the Ridgewood Facelift surgeons at East Coast Advanced Plastic Surgery, for example, the plastic surgeons offer just such a confidential consultation. Patients, generally, don’t want it to be public knowledge that they are looking for plastic surgery options. This seems completely normal and completely absurd all at the same time. And I think once I explain why, you’ll be able to see it the same way I see it.
So, let’s start with the desire to keep your plastic surgery secret sounding absurd. Our ideal of beauty is completely impossible to achieve naturally. No amount of diet and exercise for a person who works 8 hours a day can consistently achieve the “Hollywood celebrity” look that we’re all told we should aim to achieve. The solution, then, is plastic surgery. It’s absurd that we all have to pretend these results are achieved natural and, further, it’s actually damaging. We perpetuate the notion that everyone should always look young and beautiful and they should do so naturally. There’s, of course, nothing wrong with looking youthful and attractive—but we shouldn’t pretend it’s all natural.
The Ways We View Plastic Surgery
On the other hand, and perhaps oxymoronically, plastic surgery is viewed as uncouth, as vain, as superficial. The thinking goes that only someone who is incredibly shallow would think about plastic surgery. And no one wants to be thought of in that way. The truth of the matter is that plastic surgery is often not about shallow needs or desires. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Most people who pursue plastic surgery are simply seeking to feel happy in their own bodies, they aren’t necessarily trying to impress everyone or anyone. This is an important distinction because it does not validate the common notion of plastic surgery as vain.
Instead, plastic surgery is often about freedom: the freedom to feel great in your own body. It can also boost confidence and self-esteem. This is a huge reason that people go in for plastic surgery procedures such as facelifts. It can mean a better chance at a job or a raise and a more content feeling with one’s station in life. And yet, there’s resistance from outside groups, sometimes even including your friends and family. For example, I recently read a piece in Arab News about Saudi women who are interested in plastic surgery, but must go about their surgery in secret or risk judgment by friends and family.
Secret Plastic Surgery is Not Advised
Getting plastic surgery in secret is by no means an exclusively Saudi phenomenon (it happens all the time in the United States—just ask your plastic surgeon), but it can be inherently problematic. In order to successfully recovery from any surgical procedure, you need an excellent support group. You need someone to take care of you when pain prevents you from completing your daily tasks. Without a good support group, you may be even more tempted than normal to rush your recovery, and that can lead to complications or compromised results.
Essentially, any kind of surgery—even minor surgery—is going to limit your movements for a number of days, if not a number of weeks. In order to have a successful recovery period, you’re going to need help. Whether that means help finding or making food or doing other things, such as work—support is one of those things that is necessary. So to have plastic surgery secretly can be problematic. By nature, you won’t have that support system.
Get the Support You Need
So if you’re thinking about having plastic surgery, you should be confident in your reasons. That means you may have to have a conversation with your friends or loved ones about your plastic surgery procedure—and it’s important to keep a level head during those procedures. Explain your reasoning for wanting the procedure, and make sure to articulate that you’re not asking for permission or approval, you’re simply asking for support. Be understanding of any pushback you may get—because it’s not going to change your mind, so you can indulge it for a little while. Just remember that anything that happens to your body is between you and your plastic surgeon, and at the end of the day, it’s not anybody else’s business.
Maybe that’s one of the reasons that plastic surgeons offer confidential plastic surgery consultations: because it’s really no one’s business but yours. So if you want to get a facelift, or any other plastic surgery procedure, talk to your plastic surgeon today.