Summary: Knowing how to act when someone in your family is undergoing breast augmentation can be a little confusing, understandably. It can be an especially sensitive situation, depending on when you’re told about the procedure. No matter when you’re told about a friend or family member’s breast augmentation, it’s certainly a sign of trust–so you don’t want to react in a way that reflects poorly on you or your relationship.
What Should You Do When Someone in Your Family is Undergoing Breast Augmentation Surgery?
Knowing how to act when someone in your family is undergoing breast augmentation can be confusing to say the least. First, it will depend on how, exactly, that family member is related to you. (After all, you probably don’t want to know about your mother’s breast augmentation in too much detail–but you should still know about it for health reasons.)
But there’s also the fact that you simply might not know how to respond. What should you say when someone tells you about an upcoming surgery, whether it’s breast augmentation or not? How supportive should you be?
It’s not a situation we’re faced with all that often, so a little bit of confusion is understandable. The role of most friends and family when someone close to you is undergoing a breast augmentation is to be supportive. What does that support look like? How, exactly, should you act when someone in your family is undergoing a breast augmentation? That’s what we’re going to attempt to answer in today’s article.
Keep Your Mind on Being Supportive
The first and simplest rule that you should follow is simply this: be supportive. That support is going to come in different forms for different people. And you know your family better than we do (probably). So what your support looks like might vary, but here are some basic tips:
- Don’t pry too much; let your family member divulge as much information as she feels is necessary.
- Ask questions and be interested. That said, if your family member is obviously uncomfortable answering a question, move on to a different one (see the first item on this list).
- There’s one simple thing you can say: “Is there anything I can do to help?” Breast augmentation usually takes anywhere from 3-10 days to recover from to the point where you can do normal daily activities, and your family member might need help during that time.
In general, just try to be helpful and say nice things. And keep in mind that it might take you some time to process the information you’ve been given, too. Maybe you just found out that your sister is undergoing a breast augmentation–and you always thought your sister was perfect just the way she was. It might take you some time to process.
But the point is that this isn’t the time for that.
What Should You Not Say?
When a friend or family member tells you that she is undergoing a breast augmentation procedure, it might be easier to focus on what you shouldn’t be saying at that particular moment.
- Try not to ask too much about motivations behind the procedure; refrain from questions such as, “Do you have a low self-esteem?”
- Do not ask about the intended final breast size unless the friend or family member brings it up first (this one especially depends on the relationship).
- Refrain from trying to talk your friend or family member out of her decision, even if you personally have reservations about it (it’s not, ultimately, your choice).
- Under no circumstances should you say something like, “Can I feel them?” Just don’t.
- Unless your friend or family member brings it up first, try not to mention the more graphic details of the procedure or the recovery; that’s something the surgeon should talk about first
There are, of course, other delicate subjects that maybe shouldn’t be brought up at that moment. If you have a moral aversion to plastic surgery (which is understandable), this conversation really isn’t the place to bring it up. After all, no one is asking you to undergo surgery too.
Your role, then is to be supportive. Breast augmentation might not be the right choice for you, but that doesn’t mean it’s not the right personal choice for your friend or family member. Knowing how to act when someone in your family is undergoing breast augmentation is first and foremost about identifying what they need.
How to Help as Best You Can
During the breast augmentation recovery period, your friend or family member may be somewhat limited in terms of mobility (and especially in terms of lifting power). So sometimes knowing how to act when someone in your family is undergoing breast augmentation surgery is as simple as, well, being there. And helping your friend or family member through that process is really the best kind of support you can offer.
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About the Author: Dan Voltz is a plastic surgery marketing guru with years of experience helping surgeons communicate the ins and outs of various surgical procedures. You can find Dan on LinkedIn.