Summary: Why do people get mad when you ask them about plastic surgery? You probably didn’t mean anything negative by it (we hope). And you certainly didn’t mean it as an insult. The answers to this question could be complex, ranging from the fact that it’s none of your business to something as simple as the preferences of the person you’re asking.
If People Love Are Fans, Why Do People Get Mad When You Ask Them About Plastic Surgery?
Let’s take a look at this scenario: you see someone with an amazingly youthful face—no lines, no wrinkles. So you ask this person about Botox or facelift procedures, and you get an angry response. Why do people get mad when you ask them about plastic surgery?
Isn’t it a compliment?
True, this probably isn’t going to be a very popular conversation. It’s not going to be something that comes up every day in passing. But it will happen enough. Part of the problem has to do with the way that our concepts of boundaries have changed over the past few years (I’m usually not one to blame everything on the internet, but this one I do think is kind of the web’s fault).
But there’s also a right way to bring this kind of thing up—and a wrong way. Why do people get mad when you ask them about plastic surgery? Well, you probably asked in the wrong way.
How Not to Ask About Plastic Surgery
Here’s a quick rule of thumb: someone else’s plastic surgery is non of your business. I understand, you might be curious. You might really want to know. That’s fine. But it doesn’t necessarily give you the right to pry. So if it’s obvious that someone does not want to talk about his or her plastic surgery procedures, you should respect that.
And you’re certainly not going to get anywhere by being anything but polite about it. Plastic surgery is a pretty personal thing. So being blunt about it isn’t going to get you any answers.
That’s where a little tact comes in. First and foremost, do not approach any complete stranger and ask about plastic surgery. This would be considered incredibly rude—not because plastic surgery is anything to be ashamed about, but because it is indeed personal. It’s not really something one shares with a total stranger.
Questions to Ask Instead of Those About Plastic Surgery
If you happen to actually know someone, these types of questions are a lot more acceptable. But you still don’t want to immediately ask about plastic surgery. That’s still a bit rude. So, ask these questions instead:
- You look like you’re in a good mood. Is something different?
- Wow, you look great! Are you getting more sleep? (Please note that complimenting someone’s looks is only acceptable in certain contexts—make sure you’re in the right one)
- Something looks different about you. Did you change your makeup? (Feel free to replace “makeup” with any other noun that is acceptable)
- I would love to know your secret. Care to share?
This list is by no means exhaustive. As you can see, you’re more likely to get some information out of a friend or acquaintance if you’re a little diplomatic about it. You’re putting the ball in their court. That way they can be as transparent as they want to.
You might be a plastic surgery expert. If you’re coming to this website, it’s likely that you know a thing or two about what plastic surgery looks like (you should also know that asking someone about their surgery directly can be bad form).
Which means you might recognize the signs of good plastic surgery. And there are, of course, tell tale signs. These might be especially transparent in people you know particularly well.
But it’s important to respect the boundaries of everyone involved. Just because you can spot the telltale signs of a facelift doesn’t mean your friend wants to have that discussion just yet.
Preserving the Mystery
Some of the reticence to discuss plastic surgery comes down to two things: preserving the mystery of your procedure and combating the stigma associated with plastic surgery.
Because there is certainly a stigma. It’s not as bad as it used to be, but there’s no getting around the fact that you will likely be judged for undergoing a plastic surgery procedure. It’s quite unfortunate, but it tends to be true—at least by a certain segment of the population. Now, again, that’s changing. Hopefully we can all look forward to a future where that kind of stigma is not a problem.
The other side of this is that many patients want to preserve a certain amount of mystery when it comes to their procedures. They just want people to know that they look good—not that they’ve had work done.
Why do people get mad when you ask them about plastic surgery? It could be because that procedure is personal. And it could be because you aren’t asking the right way.